Hi! I’m Jani and I am so happy you are here! My passion and God given mission in this life is to help other mothers escape the misery of abuse and THRIVE as healthy, whole and victorious mothers! Mom, you need to know you are NOT alone. I’m here to help you to re-build your self confidence.
I want you to feel inspired here- and find practical tools, and solid advice so you can THRIVE! You can be a living example to your children. Show your kids how to be happy AND healthy- physically, emotionally and mentally. You can show them how to LIVE, solve problems and keep your home and finances peaceful and in order.
I live my life for my children. Moreover, I hope you have been blessed with your own precious children. I pray you are like me- and that you will do ANYTHING to ensure they grow up healthy and happy.
Getting out and staying out of an abusive situation is a great step in the right direction! I am here to give you tools, inspiration and support to complete that critical first step to recovery. I want you to get away from abuse, stay away, and become the happy, healthy, thriving mom your kids deserve.
There is one thing I know for certain about children- they see EVERYTHING, they hear EVERYTHING, they remember EVERYTHING and when they get old enough, they repeat what they saw, heard and remember. My relationship was officially over for me the day my now ex threw an axe at me directly in front of our then sobbing 19 month old daughter. I knew in that instant that his promise to change was moot. I made a safety plan to get us out because of that moment. Consequently, I use my own experiences surviving abuse and learning to thrive after escaping to help other mothers.
Our children are our future. While abuse is never our fault, and we can’t go back and change it- we can demonstrate to our children how to honour OURSELVES. We can learn to become emotionally healthy, resilient, financially secure, attentive mothers. Admirable mothers live by example. We show our children how they should live, expect to be treated and to treat others.
We can have healthy relationships with our kids, our friends, our family – and yes- truly good men.
I also want you to know- there is nothing wrong with YOU mama! Abusive men tend to prey on attractive, intelligent and capable women. I’m an example! I have an enriched education. In addition, I had a wholesome upbringing. On top of that I have lots of experience (I worked in mental health). For a long time, I asked myself “how could I have been SO STUPID”! It was not until I was pregnant with our child I realized that my partner was a covert narcissist. Later on the physical abuse started to escalate. So I know abuse can happen to ANY woman, and it is not in whole or in part her fault. EVER. If there is ONE thing I want you to really KNOW deeply, mom – it is that. It was not your fault.
To be crystal clear-your abusive relationship was NOT your fault. What happened TO you is NOT who you are! And you can turn lemons into lemonade! You can be stronger, wiser, happier and a better woman, a better mother after abuse. You can turn to God for help,your friends and family for support. You can rebuild and find a way to thrive financially, you can keep a warm, comfortable and welcoming home, you can model wholeness, happiness and living well to your kids. You CAN have victory by transforming your experiences into strengths. Healing is possible, and I believe that old chestnut is true- what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
I get that you are reeling, and don’t feel on top of things right now. Exiting abuse is a frightening and lonely transition. You are in the right place if you just don’t know where to start. I’ve been where you are, and I want to support you to turn the corner and really love your life. Be sure to sign up and get my latest tips and tricks for recovering from and thriving after abuse. And drop me a line any time! I would love to get to know you!